Mark Twain said it perfectly: “I have been through some terrible things in my life some of which actually occurred.” He could have been describing some people’s approach to public speaking. This fear stems from the speaker making negative predictions that can be traced to three thoughts:
1) What if I make a mistake?
You are not going to be perfect. Everyone makes mistakes except 2nd lieutenants. You might make minor ones such as forgetting something. Targeting yourself for making them is a waste of time and contributes to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Accept it and focus on your training, presentation or speech.
2) What if they don’t like me or the training?
There will almost always be 2% from your classes or audiences over the course of a year that won’t like you or agree with you. Likes and disagreement are based on emotions and beliefs, neither of which is rational. They may have other reasons for not wanting to be there than anything you are doing or have done. An even smaller percentage might even attempt to sabotage your training. If he or she does, you will probably find your audience sympathizing with you or even stopping the saboteur themselves.
3) What if the worst happens? (This one usually takes on a life of its own).
No one has ever died from conducting bad training or making a poor presentation, (although some of us have thought such punishment justified in a few instances). Chances are there won’t be a tidal wave or an earthquake. If there is, put the class on a break and excuse yourself.
Here are the best ways to beat the jitters:
1. Don’t target yourself or make negative predictions. This is fear in search of a reason.
2. Get a good night’s rest before the big day.
3. Eat lightly and avoid caffeine before. (It’s deadly when combined with a chilly training room).
4. Put on your most comfortable clothes. (?) Make that your most comfortable occasion-appropriate clothes.
5. Don’t memorize! Be extemporaneous in your delivery.
6. Rehearse, rehearse, and rehearse! This will be your biggest confidence-builder. Try your presentation out on a dog if you have one—they make great listeners.
7. Try the 3-12-6 deep breathing method. Breathe in (3 sec); hold breath (12 sec); breathe out (6 sec).
Here’s a tip within a tip.
Your audience doesn’t see your nervousness as much as you think they do. They can’t see your heart beat or your sweaty palms, and it dissipates within two minutes. Many see nervousness as energy and conviction.
Make nervousness your ally, not your enemy.